Easy Teaching, Learning, and Chatting - 3 Cues for Communication

People have different styles of communication andstyle during conversations; change your style as
learning: visual, auditory, and kinesthetic. Individualsappropriate to express yourself best.
unconsciously select and use one of the three stylesExample of a dance teacher coaching a student:
more frequently than the other two. Visual peopleVisual:
understand best the things that they see; auditoryStudent: "I've been watching in the mirror, and I look
people understand best the things that they hear;off balance."
kinesthetic people understand best the things thatTeacher: "Look in the mirror and repeat it slowly-let's
they touch, sense, feel or do.watch for the transition."
By listening to word choices during conversations,Auditory:
you can talk to others in their favorite communicationStudent: "I'm off the beat. Can you count these
style. This makes for better understanding betweensteps?"
people, and helps conversations go more smoothly. ItTeacher: "Let's repeat this at a slow tempo. On
also makes you appear more caring, especially incount one, step across; on two, step out; on three,
business communications over the phone, which lackstep forward."
the benefit of in-person contact. It is also particularlyKinesthetic:
important when coaching students in any subject.Student: "This movement feels off. What am I doing
Listen to word choices for cues about a person'swrong?"
communication style.Teacher: "Let's repeat this a few times in slow
Visual words: see, picture, imagine, looks, and othermotion. Notice how your weight shifts from your
sight-related words.right to your left foot. Feel the weight transfer on
Auditory words: hear, listen, talk, voice, sound, andthe soles of your feet."
other sound-related words.Benefits of better communication
Kinesthetic words: sense, feel, stretch, grasp, andBeing aware of your own communication style helps
other action words.you recognize why you choose the words that you
Here are answers to the question "Can we meet fordo; being aware of other people's preferences helps
lunch tomorrow, or is Friday better?"you connect with them during conversations. Benefits
Visual: "Tomorrow looks good to me."of good communication include good first impressions
Auditory: "Tomorrow sounds good to me."when meeting new people, more amiable
Kinesthetic: "Tomorrow works for me."conversations, clear understanding between people,
Although most people favor one of the three styles,and better results in teaching and learning. Visual,
people also pepper their conversations with wordsauditory and kinesthetic word choices make for
from the other styles, depending on what they arebetter understanding between friends and business
discussing. Be flexible in adjusting your communicationassociates.