| You keep thinking, "He dumped me. How will I ever | | | | relationship, the activities you care about get pushed |
| survive?" and then you are crying out a river. It's not | | | | aside if your boyfriend isn't interested in them. This is |
| the end of the world, and you should know that | | | | a good time to get back with the things that still |
| while he broke up with you, you are not a broken | | | | matter to you. |
| person. You are still whole. | | | | If no particular activity comes to mind, then maybe |
| When you experienced a "he dumped me" event in | | | | you need to get a new hobby! No, really, when you |
| your life, mainly you get two fears. The first fear | | | | say "he dumped me," what you tell yourself is that |
| you have is that you will never recover from the | | | | you are worthless. When you take up a new activity |
| pain. The second fear is that you are afraid that no | | | | and invest in yourself, you prove to yourself that |
| one will ever love you again. | | | | you matter. |
| Yes, the fear is real and the pain is real too. But, the | | | | There are all kinds of activities you can get involved |
| situation exists in your head, not in the real world. | | | | with. The best thing to do is to join a group, class, or |
| While one part of your life may be over, your life is | | | | workshop. For instance, joining a hiking club will let |
| not over. | | | | you meet lots of people who enjoy the great |
| You still have friends and family who care about you. | | | | outdoors. A ballroom dancing class will introduce you |
| In fact, you now have more time to spend with | | | | to people who enjoy the finer things in life. A |
| them. Many times, when you get into an involved | | | | writer’s workshop will be filled with creative |
| romantic relationship, we lose touch with the other | | | | types. |
| people who bring meaning to our lives. You now have | | | | As you begin to re-engage with the world, you will |
| a chance to reconnect with them. | | | | lose the sense of desperation you felt when he |
| In fact, sharing your loss with them may encourage | | | | dumped you. You will make new friends who share a |
| them to share their break up experiences with you. | | | | common interest. And, you may even meet |
| When you say, "he dumped me," that allows them to | | | | someone special to spend your time with. |
| be vulnerable about how they've been hurt too. You | | | | The truth is that you will find someone to date again. |
| will begin to see that your pain is not unique. You will | | | | Your soul mate is out there. |
| also be able to see that other people have lived full | | | | Your ex may have done you a favor by breaking up |
| and complete lives after a break up. | | | | with you because now you have a chance to find |
| In addition to having more time for others who you | | | | someone who fits you better. |
| care about, you will have more time to work on the | | | | And, always remember, the best revenge when "he |
| issues in your life. Many times, when you are in a | | | | dumped me" is to move on with your life! |