| The root of all fear is the fear that we cannot handle | | | | small, never taking risk, and refusing to dream. What |
| what happens to us. If I am rejected I will just | | | | a boring life! Deep inside we all know that we can be |
| fall apart! If I fail I will never do anything | | | | and create so much more. When we choose to take |
| again. The truth is that when we look back at our | | | | the risk of dreaming big and creating amazing lives |
| lives bad things have already happened! We have | | | | we will feel fear! The first time I taught a workshop I |
| been rejected, failed and have experienced loss but | | | | was shaking scared. By the second class I could |
| we have dealt with it and survived. | | | | breath and pass out handouts with out dropping |
| When I was little I thought someday I would not be | | | | them from my still-shaking hands. By the third class I |
| afraid. I would try new things with great anticipation | | | | was beginning to enjoy leading it. That is the story of |
| and bravery. I would not be afraid of bad dreams, | | | | fear. When we try something new we will be afraid! |
| critical words or losing treasured belongings. Then I | | | | Expect it, take fear by the hand and say, Come |
| would be grown-up. What a sad day when I realized | | | | on let's go do something new!. |
| that I was grown-up and I was still scared. (Maybe | | | | Dance with your fear.Our first reaction when we feel |
| even more!) The more I choose to think, feel and | | | | fear is to hide from it. To pull away. To ignore it. |
| plan big things for my life, the more fear is my | | | | Unfortunately,that doesn't work. As we pull away it |
| constant companion. What to do? Here are a three | | | | pulls us with it and soon we are paralyzed by it. The |
| steps that have helped me face my fear. | | | | best way I have found is to dance with fear. Say to |
| Understand it.The root of all fear is the fear that we | | | | your fear, Hi, fear. I know you are there. Come |
| cannot handle what happens to us. If I am | | | | with me as I face this new challenge. As fear |
| rejected I will just fall apart! If I fail I will | | | | grabs you, circle around and dance with it. Always |
| never do anything again. The truth is that when | | | | moving in the direction you choose. As you take |
| we look back at our lives bad things have already | | | | action towards your goals soon you will find that fear |
| happened! We have been rejected, failed and have | | | | will loosen it's grip. (At least until you try the next |
| experienced loss but we have dealt with it and | | | | new thing!) |
| survived. It is the anticipation of what might happen | | | | Begin today! What is it that you have wanted to do |
| that stops us not the actual negative event! I love | | | | but were too scared to try? Take fear by the hand |
| this quote by Mark Twain,I have lived a long life | | | | and go for it! |
| and had many troubles, most of which never | | | | "You gain strength, courage and confidence by every |
| happened. | | | | experience inwhich you really stop to look fear in the |
| Expect it.It is easy to begin avoiding fear by living | | | | face. |