| The following is written by blogger Esmeralda | | | | Wrong! Please, in your heart you already know this.. |
| Redfield: | | | | Don't call him! After a guy breaks up with you, he will |
| | | | | regard your repeated phone calls as "stalking" or |
| Hey girl, welcome to my page! | | | | "harassing" way sooner than you think! |
| You are probably here because you are wondering | | | | And even more important: Since you are giving him |
| how to get your ex boyfriend back. I've been there, | | | | confirmation that you still think about him, he will not |
| trust me. I know how miserable you feel, and I am | | | | feel any pain of missing you. This is definitely not |
| truly sorry for you. | | | | helping to get him back! So whatever you do, don't |
| However, there is one person who can't be sorry for | | | | call him (unless you have your plan to win him back all |
| you right now.. And that's you! | | | | laid out, more about that later). |
| A breakup is a very emotional and painful thing to go | | | | If you have difficulty fighting the urge to call him, |
| through. Probably all you want to do just now is to | | | | then try to keep your focus on your goal: Getting |
| curl up on the couch, eat ice cream, and feel sorry | | | | your boyfriend back in your arms! Try the |
| for yourself. (And honestly, who wouldn't!) | | | | psychological exercise that we did before. Like with |
| | | | most things in life, if you keep the end result in mind, |
| But if you came here to find out how to get your ex | | | | it will just be so much easier! |
| boyfriend back, it is extremely important that you | | | | |
| decide on a solid plan right now. Before you are | | | | |
| tempted to make a bad move by instinct, and blow | | | | Ground Rule Three: Find Other Things To Focus On |
| your chances in the process. (You will be tempted, | | | | |
| no doubt about it, and the ice cream will be the least | | | | This may not seem like much of a "get my boyfriend |
| of your problems). | | | | back" tactic, but believe me, it is actually a very |
| In life, usually it is good to do what your instincts tell | | | | powerful method! Let me explain: |
| you to do. Your "gut feeling" is right most of the | | | | If you can find a new hobby or activity to dedicate |
| time, and if you follow it, you will be allright. | | | | some of your attention to, you will have less time to |
| However, this does not apply to breakup situations! | | | | miss your ex boyfriend. |
| This is the one time where your instincts are totally | | | | Apart from that, you will regain the feeling that you |
| WRONG. Believe me, if you want to get your guy | | | | are in control of your life, and experiencing new and |
| back, you will have to act completely different from | | | | interesting things. |
| what your heart tells you to do. | | | | Those two factors lead to something very valuable |
| So stop what you are doing for a moment. Try to | | | | to your goal: You will have more self confidence (and |
| control your emotions, and take a few minutes out | | | | that definitely shows) and your ex boyfriend will |
| of your time to read what I have to say. | | | | notice that you have "moved on" with your life, or at |
| My article is quite long, because I have a lot of | | | | least that you are not suffering full time because he |
| important information to share with you. But if you | | | | is gone.This works like a red rag on a bull for most |
| are willing to invest five minutes to read this, those | | | | guys! |
| five minutes will have a huge impact on your chances | | | | Well so far the basics. I hope you have learned that |
| to get your ex boyfriend back! So bear with me for | | | | acting on instinct is a very dangerous thing to do |
| a bit. | | | | when you try to win your boyfriend back. |
| Three Ground Rules For Winning Your Boyfriend Back | | | | Now for one of my favorite "real life" examples of |
| I have defined three ground rules that any girl should | | | | how to get your ex boyfriend back! |
| follow if she wants to get her ex boyfriend back. | | | | Of course this method won't be useful to everyone, |
| Of course every breakup situation is different. You | | | | but if you feel that it might suit your situation, I |
| may feel like your situation is so different, that the | | | | recommend you give it a try! |
| "common rules" don't apply to you. | | | | |
| However, if you have decided that you want your | | | | |
| ex boyfriend back, I strongly advise you to keep | | | | Example #1 - Donna & David |
| these ground rules in mind, no matter what your | | | | Me and my friend Donna came up with this when her |
| situation is! | | | | boyfriend of three years suddenly broke up with her |
| This is what I have learned from talking with | | | | because he felt that |
| hundreds of girls in breakup situations, and I am not | | | | "He needed his space', and |
| exaggerating, feel free to look at the comments | | | | "He wasn't sure what he was feeling for her |
| below my article. | | | | anymore". |
| OK here we go. The first rule is the simplest and the | | | | Donna was devastated, she loved David with all her |
| most difficult at the same time: | | | | heart and didn't want to lose him! |
| | | | Luckily, Donna was a psychology student so she |
| Ground Rule One: Be strong! | | | | knew a thing or two about male psychology. So |
| | | | | instead of following her urges to call him up, she did |
| However heartbroken you feel, trust me, your ex | | | | this: |
| boyfriend is not going to want you back if you show | | | | 1. Instead of pleading and begging for him, she "just" |
| him that you are miserable and/or needy. | | | | let him go.(For the moment) |
| You probably have the urge to let him know just | | | | 2. She tried the best she could, to not let him see |
| how terrible you feel, and how much you miss him, | | | | how much the break up hurt her. |
| so that he will feel.. ehm... Feel what? Pity..? | | | | 3. And then... She took salsa lessons! |
| A guy doesn't fall for a girl out of pity, ever! You'd | | | | This may seem like a strange strategy, and of |
| be amazed though, how many women try to use | | | | course Donna had to push herself to do it. But it |
| this "tactic" to get an ex boyfriend back. Please don't | | | | worked out brilliant: |
| be one of them! To get your ex boyfriend back, you | | | | - It was a big boost for her self esteem (a lot of |
| will have to be confident and strong! Girls, I can not | | | | guys at the dancing class were giving her attention) |
| stress this enough. | | | | - It gave her something to focus on, apart from |
| | | | David |
| A Little Psychology To Help You To Be Strong | | | | - It gave her a great sense of "adventure", of doing |
| By now you may be thinking "OK Essy, easy for you | | | | something new with her life |
| to say, but I just feel terrible! How can I act | | | | - And most of all: David heard about the salsa lessons |
| confident when I feel as rotten as I do?" | | | | (erm.. yes we made sure he did) ;) and he was |
| Well of course acting confident can be difficult right | | | | extremely jealous about it! |
| now, because after a breakup your self esteem may | | | | It's important to know that guys are very "visual |
| hit a low point. | | | | minded". When David heard about the dancing |
| Try this little psychological exercise for a minute, it's | | | | lessons, he immediately visualized Donna with those |
| really helpfull: | | | | other men, dancing close together, and probably |
| Imagine how it will be when you are back together | | | | starting to feel something for one of them.. |
| with your boyfriend. Not like in a memory, but in the | | | | Before she knew it, David was leaving messages on |
| future.That part is very important. | | | | her cell, saying he made a mistake and they had to |
| Experience how it feels to be back together after | | | | talk! Of course Donna made him work for it a bit, |
| you have been apart all this time.. Really feel his arms | | | | before she took him back.. ;) |
| around you again..Feel his love in how tightly he holds | | | | This happened over two years ago, and Donna and |
| you.. Hear the sweet things he whispers in your ear... | | | | David are still together this day! |
| How happy he is that he and you are together again.. | | | | So there you see: If you play your cards right, make |
| Try to make this imagination as "real" as possible. | | | | a solid plan an follow it through, then you will have a |
| Now realize yourself (and make a mental note right | | | | good chance of getting your ex boyfriend back! |
| now) that many couples get together after a | | | | Well these were my ground rules and a real life |
| breakup, every single day! This is not just a fantasy, | | | | example that you can use when you try to get your |
| you can achieve this goal if you put your mind to it! | | | | ex boyfriend back.I hope you found this article |
| People get back together after the most horrible | | | | helpful! |
| breakups.. Even lots of people that shouldn't be | | | | |
| together, still get a second (or third) chance. | | | | If you are still a little uncertain how to proceed from |
| Why? Well it's just a matter of biology and | | | | here, how you can get your ex boyfriend to love |
| psychology. | | | | you again.. then I would really advise you to get one |
| - Biology: It's the chemistry between the two of you. | | | | of the professional "get your ex boyfriend back" |
| If it "felt right" it probably was right, as far as mother | | | | systems that are available online. |
| nature is concerned.The two of you share a strong | | | | Think about it.. How would it be if someone told you |
| connection, so it is probable that you can make | | | | exactly what to say and what to do, Someone who |
| "good" babies together. And your (and his) body | | | | has helped thousands of girls like you to turn their |
| picks up on that. | | | | breakup around.. Wouldn't that be exactly what you |
| - Psychology: This one is more complicated, and this | | | | need right now? |
| is where you can put your magic to work.. | | | | There are a lot of different systems available online, |
| Psychology is actually pretty simple if you know what | | | | and I have read almost every one of them. Some of |
| you are doing. The only problem is, people act in the | | | | them are really brilliant! |
| wrong way to get their results, and mess up their | | | | I can't give their content away in this article because |
| chances in the process. However, if you KNOW what | | | | it's copyrighted material (and I don't own the |
| you are doing, you can play your ex's feelings like an | | | | copyright unfortunately).. But I talk about the best |
| instrument. | | | | available "get him back" methods on my site: |
| He is still tied to you biologically. You have been | | | | |
| together, right? So this shows that he and you are a | | | | Getting an expert on board |
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| I am convinced that in most cases, if you want it | | | | you need a step-by-step system.. This is where you |
| hard enough, you can get your ex boyfriend back! | | | | will find it for sure. |
| You just have to be strong and smart about it! | | | | Thank you for reading my (very long) article. |
| OK, I hope that by now you know that you do have | | | | Whatever your situation is, and whatever you plan to |
| a good chance to get your ex boyfriend back. You | | | | do, I wish you all the luck in the world getting your |
| only need the right information on what you should | | | | ex boyfriend back! And remember, be strong! |
| do and should not do. So let's continue. | | | | -Essy |
| | | | P.S. I used to answer a lot of questions in the |
| Ground Rule Two: Limit Contact | | | | comment section below, and even more through |
| | | | | email.. But unfortunately I have to stop doing so. I |
| One area where you need to be very strict with | | | | am really sorry, because I love to help all of you to |
| yourself, is contact. Whatever you do, don't harass | | | | get your ex boyfriend back.. But it was taking me |
| your ex. This will definitely drive him away from you. | | | | several hours per day and it just got too much, it |
| Instinctively you want to call him, because you want | | | | started to interfere with my personal life. |
| things to get back to how they were between you | | | | If you need more help to get your guy back, you |
| two. | | | | should make things easier for yourself and check my |
| And to get back together, you first need to make | | | | website where I show you the best methods I can |
| contact, right? Right..? | | | | recommend to you. |