| Most have us have been there at least once......or | | | | is missing is far more productive. As well, in focusing |
| twice....or three times....or more. Personal experience | | | | on what is missing, more of the same continues to |
| has taught me that having some positive goals set | | | | show up in your life. |
| up for yourself around this challenging time is a | | | | STEP 3: |
| blessing! | | | | Set up at least 10-15 minutes of ME time in your day. |
| It is far better to set yourself a list of 'to do' things | | | | Use this time for meditation, not just for relaxation, |
| as opposed to sitting in front of the phone hoping it | | | | but a time when you can work on changing your |
| will ring, or eating a box of candy followed by a tub | | | | past thinking habits - the thinking that led you to |
| or two of ice cream ( chocolate that is) in front of | | | | where you find yourself now. Look at how you can |
| the television set and washing it down with a bottle | | | | change your thinking and introduce new positive |
| or two of Pinot Noir Chardonnay. To say the least- | | | | thoughts/beliefs to replace old negative thoughts |
| it's not good for you - though momentarily you may | | | | beliefs. |
| feel good. | | | | STEP 4: |
| Here are some simple steps that you might like take | | | | Write a list of all the things you've wanted to do |
| into consideration that I know have worked well for | | | | now that you don't have anyone telling you what |
| many. And it does not cost a cent! | | | | you can or can't do! |
| STEP ONE: | | | | Like: |
| Get out a notebook and in it write down some | | | | Climb Mount Everest |
| clearing out procedures like: | | | | Go bungee jumping |
| 1. Spring Clean the house | | | | Drop out of a plane ( parachute included!!) |
| 2. Remove anything or everything that reminds you | | | | Climb the Sydney Harbour Bridge |
| of the former partner ( except the kids!) | | | | Write a book |
| 3. Have a garage sale - you'll feel productive and | | | | Take Latin dancing classes |
| make some extra cash | | | | Stay out at your girlfriend's place until late |
| 4. Re-arrange the furniture in the house- or throw | | | | Eat pizza for breakfast |
| out some of the furniture. | | | | And just plain re-invent yourself! |
| In getting rid of and clearing out, you mentally make | | | | STEP 5: |
| room for new things to come into your life. | | | | Love yourself even if no one else does. Remain in a |
| STEP 2: | | | | state of Gratitude for what you do have. Appreciate |
| Write a list of all the things you still have to be | | | | who YOU are, your own self worth and inner beauty. |
| grateful for regardless of what you think you have | | | | Soon everyone else will see it. |
| lost. Focusing on what you have as opposed to what | | | | |