Two Left Feet Syndrome

Do you have two left feet? Most of my students do.less entitled to learn because she was so obviously
Or at least that's what they tell me on the phoneworse than the students around her. They both
before scheduling their first lesson. I have yet tocame to group classes for years, cheerfully holding up
meet someone with two right feet!everybody else in their attempts to learn the basics
The point is: most people, men especially, are toldover and over again!
they can't dance over and over during their life times,So how do you explain the fact that most men have
and eventually they start to believe it! In it's essence,a two left feet complex, while no woman ever
America's Two Left Feet problem is the same asdoes? I'd have to blame it, yet again, on our culture.
America's weight problem. We are told over and overWe grow up with the idea that it is ok for women
that we are hungry and must eat theto dance, but if a man dances, it makes him less of a
high-calorie-and-fat concoctions produced by fastman somehow. We think being able to dance is a
food restaurants. It is all around us - TV commercials,part of a woman's femininity, and not being able to
bill boards, internet, newspapers... And likewise, mydance is a reflection of a man's masculinity. Obviously,
male students are told they can't dance over andthis wasn't the thought pattern in days when partner
over by their wives, girlfriends, sisters, mothers, anddancing was the norm. And people from cultures
even some dance teachers!where everybody dances for any reason, or with no
It is true that some people have major problems inreason whatsoever, like some Latin American
learning how to dance. Those people will nevercultures, for example, don't suffer from Two Left
become professional dancers, or even good dancers,Feet syndrome either.
but those people are very rare and far in between. ITimes are changing, however. Partner dancing is back
have only met two such people during my teachingin style! And though it sometimes seems that our
career. And, ironically, they were both female!culture is not ready for it, we are taking the first
Surprisingly, nobody had ever told them they hadsteps to changing the archaic mindsets. I applaud
two left feet, so they happily took their dancethose of you, gentlemen, who decide to ignore the
lessons 2-3 times a week for years, annoying thestereotype and take the time to learn how to dance,
living daylight out of their husbands, who in bothwhether for your partner, or for yourself. And I
cases, were much more talented then their wives.applaud those of you, who tell me that you have
Neither of the women ever thought of herself astwo left feet, but you would like to dance anyway!