The Muffed Dance

Teri was 5. As younger siblings do, she looked up toThen, to the "ahhhh, aren't they cute"'s of the
her oldersister, the dancer, in a big way. Sara was 4packed house, thecurtain lifts to reveal Teri's class of
years older and wasexcelling in ballet, tap and jazz.little tykes all in a line lookingnervously around under
So we enrolled Teri in the same dance school andthe bright lights. At one end of the line was
she reallyseemed to enjoy the lessons and her newTeri, with her bulky cast in plain view and her hands
friends. She was now, ofcourse, a dancer, like hertucked in thewhite muff in the starting position for
sister. And Teri very much looked forwardto the"the Muff Dance."
climax of her first dance season, the year-end danceThe moment arrived and music started. Teri didn't.
recitalthis school put on.She just stoodthere, still as a statue, while her
If you've ever been a dance parent, you of coursefriends slipped into their well-rehearsed routine.
realize that theobligation is quite large. Aside from theWas she nervous? Did she forget her steps? Did her
weekly lessons, scheduledon different days in ourfoot hurt?
case, there is the extra investment of timeandThen, as if on cue, she gracefully took her left hand
money preparing for the 'big event' - extra lessonsout of the muffand raised it to her face, inserted her
andrehearsals, fittings for the completely differentindex finger into her nostriland with the precision of a
head-to-toe costumerequired for each dance numberTexas oil driller, began a full-scaleexploration of the
and a parents meeting for eachdancer to make sureorifice that seemingly wouldn't conclude until shehit
everyone was on the same stage come recitalnight.paydirt! That's my girl!
Baseball parents have it easy!Needless to say, the place erupted into hysterical
As fate would have it, Teri had surgery to lengthenlaughter thatoverrode the loud music. I began to
her heel cord afew weeks prior to her dancing debut.slither down in my seat tryingnot to be among the
But that didn't stop her fromlugging around themajority who were splitting a gut at thespectacle and
heavy cast trying keep up with the otherperformers.add to the embarrassment that Teri must have
That's my girl!beenbeginning to feel.
The big night arrives and in a flurry of hurried activity,Suddenly, as if it finally registered that the
we deliver ourgirls backstage complete with specialnon-relenting roar oflaughter was directed at her, she
hair do's and a full coat ofstage war paint and weran off the stage. I was alreadyhustling out of the
take our seats in the auditorium.theatre to the backstage area in anticipation ofhaving
The place darkens, the curtain rises and the showto do some creative parenting and intense
begins with theperformances of some of theconsolation.
advanced students. They beam withpride showingWith a lot of tear drying and a little coaxing I
off the stuff they had worked so hard on all yearmanaged to convincemy little dancer to "get on with
long.the show", where she performed therest of her
Two of Sara's dances were slated and as always,numbers, without using her fingers.
she didn't miss astep.The next year, she played tee ball.