| Beyond the gropings and immediate | | | | interaction because of our awareness that the |
| gratifications of the sexual dance of | | | | culmination of our dance will be |
| adolescence and young adulthood, there is the | | | | unapologetically physical. Lightly touching |
| quiet but intense satisfaction of a mature | | | | each other, holding hands, dancing, |
| sex life. While the unbearable tension of | | | | embracing, are all techniques we use to |
| youth may have dimmed, a physical union | | | | establish a physical bond with the other. We |
| between long-time lovers can be richer for | | | | show affection to our pets and our babies by |
| the shared affection and history that each | | | | stroking them and smoothing their hair. We |
| partner brings to the experience.The physical | | | | want to intensify this same soothing contact |
| act of sexual intercourse can become more | | | | with our mate by a deliberate touching that |
| exciting and satisfying if it is viewed as | | | | builds tension through the promise of more |
| the climax of a rising tension, much as | | | | extensive physical contact to follow.The |
| happened in the early days of your | | | | odors of courtship have been studied |
| relationship. Somewhere along the line | | | | extensively by the perfumeriers who attempt |
| "making love" became transformed into "having | | | | to capture the subtleties of physical arousal |
| sex." The intricate rituals of courtship and | | | | in a bottle, attempting to make a fortune. |
| dating evolved into a quick hustle before | | | | While manufactured scents can be pleasant and |
| falling asleep. We need to periodically | | | | provocative, their effects pale before the |
| recapture those rituals to build the momentum | | | | innate prehistoric abilities nature has |
| needed for climactic, explosive physical | | | | willed us. When we feel the desire to reach |
| sensations.Start rekindling those old | | | | complete intimacy with our partner, our |
| feelings by creating events in your life that | | | | bodies respond by excreting pheromones, |
| involve only you and your lover. Learn to | | | | communicating our readiness to couple as |
| periodically step back to the dating phase of | | | | distinctively as an animal in heat signals |
| your relationship. How long has it been since | | | | the go ahead to potential males in its |
| the two of you went out for a romantic dinner | | | | vicinity.This powerful magnet cannot be |
| in a dimly lit restaurant? How long since you | | | | sprayed on from a bottle, it must emerge out |
| last flirted outrageously with your | | | | of the emotions and sexual tensions that are |
| partner?Flirtation is not teasing but a | | | | slowly aroused during the game of courtship |
| subtle promise of what may happen if | | | | and seduction. Trying to hurry their onset or |
| everything falls into place. It involves all | | | | expecting instant arousal only short circuits |
| the senses and temporarily elevates the body | | | | their appearance. They must be allowed to |
| created by nature above the mind developed by | | | | build gradually and naturally as part of an |
| man.Sight includes the smile of the other, a | | | | overall ritual of mutual want.The taste of |
| shake of the hair, a bounce in the walk. It | | | | intimacy is the kiss, an exchange of all the |
| may involve blushing or bravado, depending on | | | | senses coming down to us from the dawn of our |
| your personal style. Its goal is to become | | | | species when our race was born and |
| the total focus of the other's attention, | | | | pre-programmed to copulate and reproduce. We |
| excluding the rest of the world from the | | | | kiss many people in our lives: friends, |
| special interaction between the two of you. | | | | family, and children, just to show affection. |
| Sight can also be physically stimulating | | | | But the romantic kisses of lovers are in a |
| through the viewing of romantic or sexual | | | | class by themselves. Long, lingering kisses, |
| material. Men seem to respond best to | | | | tongue kisses, light kissing and licking of |
| pornography whether hardcore or soft. Women | | | | slightly salted skin, all are of primary |
| more usually prefer romance mixed in with any | | | | importance in building the desire and |
| graphic sexual scene and prefer titillating | | | | readiness for a full physical union.We speak |
| movies or television shows to reels of blue | | | | of someone as being a "great kisser," while |
| action. Women also tend to respond to words | | | | the kisses of others leave us cold. The |
| rather than pictures, a predilection that has | | | | difference is seldom in the technique but in |
| created a huge industry of romantic novels | | | | the feelings that are aroused. If we care |
| and gothic mysteries. Whatever the individual | | | | deeply about someone and want desperately to |
| preference, sight is an integral part of | | | | be with them, even a light touch of the lips |
| emotional and physical arousal.Our sense of | | | | can evoke delight and excitement while the |
| hearing is intensified by low, intimate tones | | | | well-developed techniques of others seem |
| that amuse, delight, and entice. On a | | | | mechanical and dull.Rekindling the sensuous |
| romantic date, we talk about each other, not | | | | buffet that is dating can infuse a freshness |
| about other people, or work, or world events. | | | | into the most long-established partnership. |
| We talk about how we feel about the other. We | | | | Set up a date, prepare for it as if it were |
| positively nurture the other's emotions and | | | | your first encounter, and let your body take |
| ego to make each of us feel that, if for only | | | | care of the natural responses that follow |
| a brief moment in time, we are perfect. | | | | when you disengage your mind and your raw, |
| Beneath the words uttered, we sense the | | | | primitive side emerges to evoke the pleasure |
| feelings of the other and respond in a mutual | | | | and satiation that an evening of well-paced |
| exchange of affection, respect and desire. We | | | | and drawn out love making can provide.Dr. |
| listen to a wide variety of music that softly | | | | Bola is giving away complimentary copies of |
| rekindles romance, stimulates and invigorates | | | | "Seven Super Simple Tips: Keep Your Sex Life |
| us, or brings back memories of love and | | | | Vibrant" from which this article is taken. |
| satisfaction.The sense of touch pervades our | | | | |