| Beyond the gropings and immediate gratifications of | | | | interaction because of our awareness that the |
| the sexual dance of adolescence and young | | | | culmination of our dance will be unapologetically |
| adulthood, there is the quiet but intense satisfaction | | | | physical. Lightly touching each other, holding hands, |
| of a mature sex life. While the unbearable tension of | | | | dancing, embracing, are all techniques we use to |
| youth may have dimmed, a physical union between | | | | establish a physical bond with the other. We show |
| long-time lovers can be richer for the shared | | | | affection to our pets and our babies by stroking |
| affection and history that each partner brings to the | | | | them and smoothing their hair. We want to intensify |
| experience.The physical act of sexual intercourse can | | | | this same soothing contact with our mate by a |
| become more exciting and satisfying if it is viewed as | | | | deliberate touching that builds tension through the |
| the climax of a rising tension, much as happened in | | | | promise of more extensive physical contact to |
| the early days of your relationship. Somewhere along | | | | follow.The odors of courtship have been studied |
| the line "making love" became transformed into | | | | extensively by the perfumeriers who attempt to |
| "having sex." The intricate rituals of courtship and | | | | capture the subtleties of physical arousal in a bottle, |
| dating evolved into a quick hustle before falling | | | | attempting to make a fortune. While manufactured |
| asleep. We need to periodically recapture those rituals | | | | scents can be pleasant and provocative, their effects |
| to build the momentum needed for climactic, | | | | pale before the innate prehistoric abilities nature has |
| explosive physical sensations.Start rekindling those old | | | | willed us. When we feel the desire to reach complete |
| feelings by creating events in your life that involve | | | | intimacy with our partner, our bodies respond by |
| only you and your lover. Learn to periodically step | | | | excreting pheromones, communicating our readiness |
| back to the dating phase of your relationship. How | | | | to couple as distinctively as an animal in heat signals |
| long has it been since the two of you went out for a | | | | the go ahead to potential males in its vicinity.This |
| romantic dinner in a dimly lit restaurant? How long | | | | powerful magnet cannot be sprayed on from a |
| since you last flirted outrageously with your | | | | bottle, it must emerge out of the emotions and |
| partner?Flirtation is not teasing but a subtle promise | | | | sexual tensions that are slowly aroused during the |
| of what may happen if everything falls into place. It | | | | game of courtship and seduction. Trying to hurry |
| involves all the senses and temporarily elevates the | | | | their onset or expecting instant arousal only short |
| body created by nature above the mind developed | | | | circuits their appearance. They must be allowed to |
| by man.Sight includes the smile of the other, a shake | | | | build gradually and naturally as part of an overall ritual |
| of the hair, a bounce in the walk. It may involve | | | | of mutual want.The taste of intimacy is the kiss, an |
| blushing or bravado, depending on your personal style. | | | | exchange of all the senses coming down to us from |
| Its goal is to become the total focus of the other's | | | | the dawn of our species when our race was born |
| attention, excluding the rest of the world from the | | | | and pre-programmed to copulate and reproduce. We |
| special interaction between the two of you. Sight can | | | | kiss many people in our lives: friends, family, and |
| also be physically stimulating through the viewing of | | | | children, just to show affection. But the romantic |
| romantic or sexual material. Men seem to respond | | | | kisses of lovers are in a class by themselves. Long, |
| best to pornography whether hardcore or soft. | | | | lingering kisses, tongue kisses, light kissing and licking |
| Women more usually prefer romance mixed in with | | | | of slightly salted skin, all are of primary importance in |
| any graphic sexual scene and prefer titillating movies | | | | building the desire and readiness for a full physical |
| or television shows to reels of blue action. Women | | | | union.We speak of someone as being a "great |
| also tend to respond to words rather than pictures, a | | | | kisser," while the kisses of others leave us cold. The |
| predilection that has created a huge industry of | | | | difference is seldom in the technique but in the |
| romantic novels and gothic mysteries. Whatever the | | | | feelings that are aroused. If we care deeply about |
| individual preference, sight is an integral part of | | | | someone and want desperately to be with them, |
| emotional and physical arousal.Our sense of hearing is | | | | even a light touch of the lips can evoke delight and |
| intensified by low, intimate tones that amuse, delight, | | | | excitement while the well-developed techniques of |
| and entice. On a romantic date, we talk about each | | | | others seem mechanical and dull.Rekindling the |
| other, not about other people, or work, or world | | | | sensuous buffet that is dating can infuse a freshness |
| events. We talk about how we feel about the other. | | | | into the most long-established partnership. Set up a |
| We positively nurture the other's emotions and ego | | | | date, prepare for it as if it were your first encounter, |
| to make each of us feel that, if for only a brief | | | | and let your body take care of the natural responses |
| moment in time, we are perfect. Beneath the words | | | | that follow when you disengage your mind and your |
| uttered, we sense the feelings of the other and | | | | raw, primitive side emerges to evoke the pleasure |
| respond in a mutual exchange of affection, respect | | | | and satiation that an evening of well-paced and |
| and desire. We listen to a wide variety of music that | | | | drawn out love making can provide.Dr. Bola is giving |
| softly rekindles romance, stimulates and invigorates | | | | away complimentary copies of "Seven Super Simple |
| us, or brings back memories of love and | | | | Tips: Keep Your Sex Life Vibrant" from which this |
| satisfaction.The sense of touch pervades our | | | | article is taken. |