| Let's plan the ideal life.Plan A:
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| | asked him if he could see the connection
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| Perfect parents, a childhood without
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| | to discipline and study in college, how
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| drama and trauma, graduate from the
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| | that would give him more and better
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| college of your choice with great grades,
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| | career options after college. He agreed.
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| select a life mission by age twenty-one,
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| | He asked him if he could see how a
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| land the perfect job in the career of
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| | better career would give him more
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| your choice, married to your soulmate by
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| | financial, travel and relationship
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| age twenty-six, two beautiful, healthy,
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| | choices. He again agreed. Then he asked
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| well behaved and intelligent children by
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| | the final and most important question.
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| thirty-five, financially independent by
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| | Do you see how the attitudes and skills
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| age forty-five, and retired to a life of
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| | that you develop now will impact the rest
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| leisure and travel by age
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| | of your life? He agreed.I don't know the
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| fifty-five.Sound good? Yes. Sound
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| | outcome of the situation with this mans
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| possible? Yes. Sound plausible? I
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| | son, I can only guess, but I see so often
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| doubt it.No let's take a look at plan B
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| | in life people say, I will get serious
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| the alternative: Raised in a
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| | when I am finally in the relationship I
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| dysfunctional family, barely make it out
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| | want, job or career I want and living
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| of high school, drop out of college in
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| | where I want. What these people fail to
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| your second year, unsure of what
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| | realize is that there is a connection
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| direction your life should take, two
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| | between what you are doing now and how
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| average kids that keep you from getting
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| | you are doing it to the next stage of
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| your share of sleep for several years,
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| | your life.Your future is created in the
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| divorced from your first spouse by age
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| | now moments in your life. Your future
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| thirty-five, in debt and stuck in a
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| | options are dependant on your present
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| career that is going nowhere, and drop
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| | choices.Choices.How and why you choose
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| dead at forty-five due to a stress
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| | what you do from the various options in
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| related illness.Not a pretty picture.Real
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| | life is a function of your: maturity,
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| life falls somewhere in the middle of
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| | courage, insight, experience, life
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| these two scenarios. John Lennon had a
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| | history, value systems, plans, dreams,
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| great line in one of his songs, "Life is
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| | life outlook (positive or negative,
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| what happens to you as you plan your
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| | willingness to follow through, confident
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| life."How many people do you know that
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| | or low confidence), goals, faith,
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| have led the perfect life? I will bet
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| | confidence, trust, life orientation
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| very few, and the ones that want you to
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| | (future, present or past) thought
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| think they have most likely have a few
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| | patterns and comfort zones.If for
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| skeletons in the closet.How many people
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| | example, you are in the job market
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| do you suppose begin their life with plan
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| | seeking a new position, and are offered a
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| B in mind? None I would suspect.
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| | position that requires learning a new
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| Everyone wants the ideal life.What is the
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| | industry, relocating to a part of the
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| ideal life? I haven't a clue. I would
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| | country you have never been to, and
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| guess that for everyone who supposedly
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| | taking a ten percent reduction in
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| has one there is some aspect of their
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| | compensation, but with greater potential
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| life they would secretly like to
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| | for future success and happiness, vs. a
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| change.Now I have to ask you a serious
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| | position with less potential, but
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| question. Did you think your life would
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| | requires none of the other changes, what
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| turn out as it has? There are two basic
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| | would you do?It depends on your
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| ways life can turn out. Better than we
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| | interpretation of the above seventeen
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| thought it would and worse than we
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| | items.Decisions.Decision making is the
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| thought. Which did you get, better or
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| | ability to carefully evaluate your
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| worse?Every life is about options,
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| | options, and act on what you believe is
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| choices and consequences. One of the
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| | the best choice given your current
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| great essays by R W Emerson is, The law
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| | circumstances and future plans.
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| of Compensation. If you have never read
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| | Procrastinating on a decision that
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| it I suggest you find it and spend some
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| | eventually must be made drains energy,
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| time with it. In essence the essay says,
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| | resolve and creates inner confusion and
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| what goes around, comes around, what you
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| | frustration.There is a great story in
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| sew, you will reap.You and I are reaping
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| | Napoleons Hill's book, Think and Grow
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| today the results of our earlier sewing.
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| | Rich, about how Andrew Carnegie have
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| Now I can hear some of you thinking, I
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| | Napoleon Hill sixty seconds to make a
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| didn't choose to be born into an
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| | decision on whether he would take on the
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| alcoholic family, raised in a ghetto, or
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| | project that led to his writing this all
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| be abused mentally or physically. To
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| | time best seller. He made the decision
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| discuss this further is a metaphysical
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| | in the time allotted. But the ability to
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| concept which I will not delve into in
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| | make it required faith, confidence,
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| this article. Let's rather focus on the
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| | trust, and the willingness to follow
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| decisions you have made from the options
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| | through.It takes courage to make a
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| you had from age, oh let's say, ten.There
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| | decision, not knowing the outcome in
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| is one major premise that is the core of
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| | advance. But, isn't that what life is
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| this article, so I may as well get it out
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| | really all about? How can you know how a
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| in the open now. You can not always
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| | relationship will turn out. How can you
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| control what happens to you or who or
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| | know whether your organization will
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| what comes into your life, but you can
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| | downsize or be sold leaving you on the
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| always choose your reaction, response or
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| | outside looking in. How can you know how
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| attitude about it, him or her.We were
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| | your children will turn out when you
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| engineered for success and program for
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| | decide to start a family. How can you
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| failure. The average child by age ten
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| | know whether you will like all of your
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| has been raised and conditioned in an
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| | neighbors when you move to a new
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| environment that they couldn't choose.
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| | location. How can you know whether you
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| They heard no more than yes, you can't
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| | will like ice cream until you try it.
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| more than you can, you shouldn't more
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| | You can't, life is not like that.Our job
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| than you should and you'll never more
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| | is to take the curriculum we are given
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| than you will.Add to this the thousands
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| | and do the best we can with it.
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| of hours of destruction and violence on
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| | Unfortunately we don't always get to take
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| TV and video games, a society that has
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| | the course we think we will like, can
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| seldom been an ideal role model for the
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| | handle or want.I love the Nike ad, Just
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| coming generation and peer pressure to
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| | Do It.Attitudes.Options, choices and
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| fit in or not fit at all. Growing up is
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| | decisions all come down to attitudes.
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| a difficult struggle at best.We need to
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| | Your attitudes about life, adversity,
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| learn coping skills, emotional maturity,
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| | problems, success, failure,
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| who we are, what we want, why we want it,
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| | accomplishments, people, and yes your
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| who we want to be with and what we need
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| | attitudes about the decision process
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| to be whole, happy and at peace with
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| | itself.There are only two attitudes that
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| ourselves and the world.The fortunate
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| | you can have that will impact the overall
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| among us had a great start in these early
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| | quality of your life. They are, I can
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| years, but unfortunately, that is the
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| | do it, I will do it, or I can't do it, I
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| exception. Most of us had to deal with
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| | won't do it. Examine your attitudes the
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| some kind of "stuff" before we left home
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| | next time you need to make a life
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| to follow our own path.Let's talk about
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| | decision, no matter how minor or major.I
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| four issues that impact the quality of
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| | don't know how your life is turning out,
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| life; options, choices, decisions and
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| | but I do know that you and only you are
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| attitudes.Options.Everyone has options,
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| | the architect of your past, present and
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| regardless of the situation they may find
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| | future. If you want a better life,
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| themselves in. Some options are
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| | whatever better means to you, the time to
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| obviously better than others, but there
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| | fix whatever is in your life that you
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| is always something you can do. People
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| | want to change, is now; not tomorrow, not
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| are never stuck, they just choose to see
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| | when you feel like it, not when you have
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| themselves as stuck.Your current options
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| | more money, not when you live where you
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| are related to your previous choices.
| |
| | want to, or start your own business, or
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| Better choices in the past gives you more
| |
| | not when you are with a better life
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| options in the future. Let me give you
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| | partner, the time is now, and now won't
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| an example I overheard a father of a
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| | wait for you while you spend time trying
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| teenager sharing with a friend over
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| | to decide.Tim Connor, CSP is an
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| lunch.The father was trying to influence
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| | internationally renowned sales,
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| his son to the advantages of studying
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| | relationship, management and leadership
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| while he was in high school. He said, I
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| | speaker, trainer and best selling author.
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| asked my son if he could see how getting
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| | Since 1981 he has given over 3500
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| better grades in high school would give
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| | presentations in 21 countries on a
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| him more or better options for college
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| | variety of sales, management and
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| after graduation? His son agreed. He
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| | relationship topics.
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